What Is A Diaper Fetish?

by Cay Crow, M.A., LPC, AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist

colored cloth diapers

Why Do I Have A Diaper Fetish?

Dear Cay

I have never written to an advice columnist but I just don’t know who to talk to about this. I am addicted wearing diapers! This started when I was young. I loved the feeling of cloth diapers as a child. Then wearing diapers got connected to feeling aroused sexually. If anyone found out about this, I would be mortified! Please help me understand why I do this!


Dear AB+,

First of all, this is not an addiction. It sounds more like a fetish. By that I mean that wearing diapers became strongly associated with sexual arousal for you. It is quite possible that wearing diapers fills an emotional need but do you understand what that is?

Think of your first association with diapers. It was during a time in your life when you were, ideally, lovingly cared for, cuddled often, soothed and rocked by caretakers. Young children experience sexual arousal but don’t have the heavy associations with it that adults do. Instead to a baby or toddler, the bodily sensations of arousal just feel good.

Are Diaper Fetishes Part Of The BDSM World?

There are many people who enjoy wearing diapers. Some of these people identify as Adult Babies (AB). There are also adult day care facilities in larger cities where you can pay someone to take care of you while you are in AB mode. Some individuals refer to this as “being small” or “getting small.” It is a state of mind, like sub space in the BDSM world, a place you go inside yourself where you can relax. I hope you are open to accepting that this behavior serves the purpose of self-soothing. Consider going on Fet Life, the Facebook for kinky people, and finding a community. This is possible with complete anonymity.

Also consider working with a sex therapist to understand how this developed. A good history will provide insights. You can find a certified Sex Therapist in your area here: aasect.org/referral-directory.


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